So welcome. Dear listeners to the discipline of freedom podcast. The pressure of purpose. So today I want to talk about the pressure of purpose. I've had enough. I am so frustrated when people searching for the purpose. As though they can't get on with their lives without a detailed briefing on what the purpose is. Wanting for it to get into bed with them, to assure them and show them the way with clarity and conviction, because like that supermodel quote. Of the nineties. I don't get out of bed for less than 10 K a day. There's no way I'll get out of bed without knowing my purpose. When did it ever work like this? Like never. So searching for purpose is like a virus that has. Infected over industry generation and aspect of our lives. We have for purpose organizations for purpose corporations. And they have for purpose people. I mean, what's the purpose of cleaning your house? You want a nice clean environment to hang out with soon? Don't you. Does it need to be more complicated than that? Hell. No. So for those seekers. Who searched for their purpose as though it were some kind of holy grail. And any work that is less than the high altar of purpose is unworthy of them. So if I bought into the shaming power of this kind of purpose culture, I pressure myself, my work, my accomplishments, my beauty, my relationships, my way of being to be worthy of that validation. I prefer to trust in potency, not potential. Because that reeks of a yearning for external approval. But the potency of being deeply and truly who I am in resonance. This is beyond explanations about any purposeful status quo. Because. Don't worry. Your purpose will find you. It'll come and seek you out as you're doing your daily work to pay the bills, put food on the table. Clean your shower. Uh, helping your friends move house, taking care of your children. Volunteering in your community. Having loud sex and orgasms visiting your mom, having a fun time with your friends. Oh. And if these things are purposeful, They fulfill honorable intentions to take care of you and connect with others in your realm. Everyone still seems focused on the watt. What they will do, the title, the status, the stuff. The income of what they will do. Not whom they're being, as they're doing the wash. And can't, we only do what we're skilled at or at least willing to try The, what you do would be different from my quad, because what you do will emerge from what you've experienced, what you're skilled at, what you're talented, educated, trained. Are practiced in. Oh, where you see something that needs doing. And you're willing to have a go. Could your purpose be as simple as the problem we see that needs solving. Could it be that you see that there's no decent wards of supplier installer in your area? So you start a company to solve that. This is a story of one of my clients who had to terrible wardrobe, installation experience. They didn't arrive on time. They didn't clean up after the install. And he wasn't so thrilled with the product either. So he thought. I could do better. He was an accountant. His brother was a kitchen designer and builder, and they thought. Wardrobes. Aren't such a big stretch from kitchens. So they started a wardrobe design and installation business. Focusing on providing excellent customer service and a great product. Great wardrobes with clean efficient and effective installation. It's not a lofty save the world purpose. But they made their clients feel organized and pleased with themselves. The tagline we came up was creating space for what matters. On purpose for sure. Now. I don't likely design wardrobes because it's not where my skills are. Interests lie. I do like a nice wardrobe to open it and put my hand on what I need in any moment. So. Thank you. But mostly it's not a problem. I care enough about to solve. It's equally unlikely. I'll design a life-saving medical device because I don't use them daily. So. I can't know, deeply. Where the problems lie. So instead of focusing on your purpose, could you just focus on who you're being as you do your daily tasks and trust that your work, your service and your purpose will find you. If you're at a time where you want to explore this student journaling on this. And I'm recording this as we're heading into. Mars, retrograde and Mars is your will your ambition. It's your action. It's that energy is that fire. So consider these three questions that might help your purpose of merge. Number one. What do people ask you to have them with number two? What do others? Thank you for doing number three. What is the difference in the people, the product, the surface. Before you did your thing. And after. Now press posts and journal on those three questions. welcome back. Um, If you have posed to answer those two questions. Because these will guide you to some flavor of magic that you bring to whatever you do. And then do more of that. You'll find as you keep doing this. That the, what you do will evolve. It likely expand and change into something else as you do it until it changes again. And again, and again. You see what so super interesting this month might not be quite so engrossing after a year or three when you've mastered it. If I've learned anything, it's that I need to keep meeting my own edge. Learning to choose the right font felt like a big task. At one point, I know the things that designers obsess about. Of all the options. Oh, to let you search for sensor, should it be traditional or should it be classical or should it be modern display or block? Then I could spend hours. Did the ring over which color is because if you've only designed your friends, you know, that nothing is just blue. It could be Navy. It's a purple Navy. It could be a black one. It's got more red in it. It's got more orange in it. It's. Uh, blue Navy. You get the picture. Yes. OCD. Welcome to the OCD world. Now. This is where using astrology can be super handy is a meaning making system that can guide you towards your purpose because yes, we all have one. In yoga terms, it would be called your Dharma. But purpose does not live alone. It needs prosperity and liberation, and it certainly meets pleasure to make us fulfilling and meaningful. Only in a world that values work over living and loving. Could we shame those who feel less driven, less ambitious? Then the purposeful pursuit of success at all costs. So shaming, beauty, magnetism and pleasure is shaming. Your Venus. Shaming pure desire, ambition. And will. And the motivation to take action to it's what you deeply desire is shaming. Mars. Shaming romance, flirtation love affairs, shames the potency of the sun. Without which we would all perish share mean emotions. Feeling and self care. It's shaming the moon. Shaming your past is shaming your SAS node, shaming, your. Future the new experiences you've incarnated To move towards is shaming your north node. So in yoga, your purpose, as I said, is called your Dharma. So for your purpose. Look to your first. House for identity, physicality and projection. The fifth for creativity and self-expression. The ninth for where you explore and make meaning. And purpose is very much about making meaning. So in. It's creative and skillful expression of these houses. Your Dharma emerges and it doesn't do this on at once. Every time. You go around the Zodiac every year. It'll unfold a little bit more. So mine is a natural chart. So my first house is areas which is pioneering and bold. Fifth. House mine is Leo since the charismatic ruler. Nine pounds Sagittarius. Always learning, always exploring. Curious. Philosopher, meaning maker. So look to your second task for what you value and how you create income. Through the value that you did it for, for others. The fifth has again, we'll show you how you employ that innate creativity. Yes. Even if you're a stats person or an accountant. Or doing something completely data driven. Your north node for the new experiences you've come to explore in this incarnation and your south node for the gifts and skills you've inherited from your lineage. So for me, for someone who's studied and practice everything from business to construction. As a constantly surveyor. Graphic design floristry to a jewelry designer. All creative things. A creative director, art director to yoga and meditation teacher, even. A bike courier, a waitress, a bartender. Set builder an astrologer. There's no single wash. If you have the courage to follow your gravitational pull. So let's come to potency your potency, like your passion. It's a dance as it ebbs and flow. Let your devotion. To your practice lead your progress. So one thing leads to another you're always gaining new insights and understanding of who you are. And then just does it waxes and wanes as it moves to another, as it expands and deepens alongside your capacity to hold the creative tension of your own evolution and the responsibility to deliver for your clients. I quit the have for your company, for your family, for your party, your friends, your community. And most importantly for yourself. Okay, everyone. We oh, Have a narrative arc. You can clearly see from mine, it's visioning. Creativity and design. In a word. I'm a dream Weaver. So I'd like you to hit pause again and map your own unique narrative arc. So that you can find your authenticity and express that authentic self. So there's a worksheet in the show notes called decisions, and this would help. And you'll be amazed at the patterns that you see. How you make decisions? And how you respond to the decisions over which you have no control, because that's all we have is response. We have choice. It's not what happens to us. It's what we do. When something happens. So like Steve jobs says we have to live forward, but it's only in retrospect that we can join the dots and see how the story came together. And of course I'm paraphrasing, but you get the concept. I mean, I've done so many things. Somethings just felt like they had come to the end of their road and I felt the post to investigate something else. So, let me assure you that the, what keeps changing. Einstein said compound interest is the eighth wonder of the world. And I propose that you are alive. Is the compound interest on what you do every day. But most importantly, who you were being as you do that, what. In our society, the focus. Really really is on the wash or the job title. And this is why it's so stressy these days. And. That's a lots of shaming for people who seem purposeless. But, if I look back on my life, I think, you know, your twenties are about experimentation. And do you do. Begin to kind of settler. Come to something more in your Thursdays. But of course that can all get blown open again in your forties. And then you're a fifties or maybe compounding that change. And you know, your sixties is then of course you have more insights. You know, there's more of a sense of that macro and micro. So everyone focuses on that quatre job title and that changes as you got the more experience and more schools, more perspectives. I mean truly what excites you when you're twenties is much less likely to grab your attention when you're 30, 40, or 60. You know, you tend to take your job really seriously as you're establishing your identity in your twenties. And shall we call it career, even though I hate that word. Um, in your thirties. And then as you compounded in your forties where you're probably in the space of like the pressure of maybe pay more coaches are bringing up children you know, but you really begin to see how one thing led to another, as you get older. I've certainly found that this life to be an unfolding adventure, that it only gives us information as we need it little by little. Poco a poco as you walk the path. To your next horizon. I mean always keep your eye on that fish and always keep your eye on what would be your ideal, and that will change again, as your values changes, as you have more experiences. And remember that a vision. Is not a place to be right now. But an idea that is so inspiring that it pulls you towards it and likely your vision is so grand and great that there's no hope of ever really achieving this in this one lifetime. So there is times in that rose that you will insight of your efficient, as you get caught up in the weeds on your way to the next milestone, goal or horizon. I maybe just paying the mortgage and choosing a good school for your kids are finding a bandaid for their scraped knee. And the vision. As I said is alter as you gather new information too, like in my humble experience. I believe if we were given the full scope of what we would encounter or experience. At the beginning of any project at the beginning of any new relationship at the beginning of. Of anything we'd be so overwhelmed. Terrified. And probably horrified we'd purposefully. Never get out of bed. Now, we're not supposed to know our purpose. We're not supposed to know the future. Decades ago. I signed up for a mystery school. Cute name. I thought for a program at the time. Not being conversant in the tradition of mystery schools. Months in. I realized the reason they call it a mystery school is because you have no idea. What's next. Once again, the joke was on me. And when I was retelling the story to the teacher a few years later, She was amazed that I would join a mystery school without knowing what it was. She was just further along in her spiritual studies than I was then. So each time we overcome a challenge or breakthrough and limit and find ourselves at a new edge. And if we take that leap. If we cross that portal. And we meet our edge. We expand our awareness and we're on Bodel loop. And we are emboldened and empowered by that experience. Once more, we've gone beyond ourselves. Beyond what we previously imagined as possible for us. This is your north node. The new experiences you've come for this time around. And these are often supported by the skills and talents you've inherited from your lineage. Now, remember. These are lunar nodes. So it's connected to your moon. And the moon. I always describe it. It's about fulfillment. And to fulfill that moon. Otherwise you'll be in that relentless pursuit of more. It is about integrating the south node. What you've inherited. And the north node. So each time we gain new insights into our strengths. Our weaknesses, our features and what I call our fabulous flows. And if we're paying attention, we learn how to better deploy them and serve as of our next goal, mission and vision. And with each breakthrough. We're revitalized with each breakdown. We're humbled. And reminded how human we are have fragile. And how we should not try to do this great adventure of life alone. You see, everything is a co-creation. We're constantly in conversation with the universe. We live in a relational universe where we understand joy. Because we've experienced that in us. We understand. Great romance and great love. Because we felt the pain of heartbreak. Mastery because we've experienced and been amused by our ineptitude and failure. When we begin to learn something new. And of course there's a whole access between each of these opposites. My mother, a great baker. I would always say she picked the worst cakes when she had guests coming. So now while I think it's easy to think, we live in a binary world of black and white, good and bad cruel and kind smart and stupid. There's a whole beautiful. Array in between a whole world of nuance between brilliant and doll. Each new job. Relationship pivot program conversation. Break up, break down, break through that. Oh. Can deliver insights and each of them has a purpose. It's purpose is to teach you a lesson or maybe to break a pattern or maybe to expand the game you're playing. So, could you entertain the idea? That purpose is as simple as intention. And could magic be as simple as intention. An honorable and magical. Intention. Is to be present. To show up and do your best. In every moment. This will mostly ensure. At the very least you'd have a good time. And at the very most, you'll be invited again and again. So to get clear if you're aligned with yourself mentally, spiritually, and emotionally and physically each day. And with each task, ask yourself, what's the intention you're bringing. Not what's the outcome you're expecting or you have to get, so that it's worthwhile. Not do I look good in this purpose? We used to always say this, an art school. It's about. Being in the art, not looking good in the art. Not will this purpose make me sound or look good to others. Could you be. Purpose competing or virtue signaling. Do you think. Are you living someone else's dream are following your own gravitational pool. Ask is this. Purposing me into being. Loved wealthy. Famous are acknowledged for just how great I am. R is this. Inviting me into my own authenticity. And I've learned after doing plenty of purpose, chasing that suffering is optional. That the suffering happens when I fight with my reality fight with my face. Want, what others are having are doing now are comparing myself in any way to others. Like four can love can be the most. Purposeful and profitable play. Just not in that forest. Fake way. Of wearing a mask huston like hell to get what you want. You know, where you put on a business suit or a designer Insta worthy wardrobe way. I mean, why? Oh, why do all the accounts of successful, purposeful? Women look like they've stepped out of a Chanel photo-shoot from the 1950s. I mean, who dresses like that as a creative art as an entrepreneur or somebody who's in control of their own destiny? Like me, don't you spend most of your time in yoga clothes or jeans and only occasionally. Really groom. Your hair put on lipstick, a beautiful dress and shoes. I mean, I like to wear a beautiful things every day. But they're not. What others might deem appropriate. For presentation. So for what it's worth from decades of working with corporates and small businesses, the way to your purpose is through integration, not separation it's through owning every part of you and your life, your lice and your shadow. And very often. Your talents and your superpowers are in your shadow. There, what you can see about yourself, look at your 12th house and see what's going on there. So what you perceive to be your features and flows your shiny in your shame. And, you know, you can use all the tools like human design, astrology and your grandma's Myers, Briggs. They're all useful to have you understand yourself. I've used the mole and still use some of them. But remember they're all just too. Yoga. Meditation breath work. When I am a somatic work. Oh, just tools. I have a. Devoted daily yoga and meditation practice, which I swear by to keep me grounded and centered. It varies from five minutes to two and a half hours, depending on the day. I use astrology. I use affirmations. I use light therapy. I liked instance. I work with crystals. I give thanks for my health, my wealth, my creativity, my connection with divinity. And for all my relationships. I also know it's just more mental masturbation, unless I take action. It's through the doing. That we learn more about who we are. It's in our response and our reaction to what ever is going on. That's how we discover who we are. It's in the doing that you have to fess up to yourself about what you're doing. Well. And what you're doing badly. What you were avoiding that you should do and getting lost in that you feel comfortable doing? Remember your differentiation naturally emerges through integration. All parts of you. Because truth is no one is like you, no one puts words together just like you. No one expresses those words, just like, you know, one expresses an idea, just how you do. No one designs just like you. No one works the same business model like you do because no one has the DNA, the lineage, the parents, the family, the friends experiences. Both challenging, wonderful and shite, like to. So through your doing, you begin to see what you do differently and how you're different from others and how others perceive you and what they respond to and want more of from you. You begin to see. How the way that you solve problems and what problems you see that others don't and those you're drawn to solve. So could you trust that everything you've ever known learned. Our experienced has value. I call that zero waste. Can you trust that, you know what you know, and that your unique point of view. Your way of doing a being. Has value. Can you see that your contribution will emerge from all of this? So forget about looking for your purpose trust. That is we'll find you. It's got a GPS. It knows exactly where you are. All you have to do is do what you need to do today and trust by showing up to fulfill. That responsibility and obligation. You'll be edging closer and closer to the Dharma and contribution you are here to make. By being who you are as you go about your work and life, you're showing yourself your higher self. What you can rely on yourself to deliver. And you're also showing others, but they can rely on you for, and each day you do that. You be compounding your reputation. You're building your brand. You're building trust in yourself. Which is the greatest and deepest trust of all. And little by little intentionally. And purposefully. Letting others know what you want to be known for too. You see the purpose of life is to feel good. To be good and to do good. And of course you could have a chart reading to confirm what you might already know. I guide you towards it while you are in your impatience to find out. I've done that several times and I'd be happy to do that for you. So beyond that, I'm offering a program called Beyond Yourself. It starts in June, DME. If you are interested if you're ready to go beyond yourself, the bones of it are, it will be a three month container. With support for 12 months. And the reason there would be support for 12 months is because I want to support you in implementation. This is what I found in many of the programs that I've done, that they give you all the information, but it takes time to implement it. And it'll be about personal growth. Community connection. And practice developing your tools as a creative, intuitive. Um, what I'm calling nature centered design. That's your nature, by the way. And it will be about building your brand. It will be about you really coming home to yourself. To deeply trust yourself. To stop questioning yourself. To be able to show up. As your most authentic self. For yourself. For your clients. For your partners for your children. For everybody who's in your ecosystem. So. I'm going to close now I'm going to intentionally. Close now. And say. Enjoy your day. Thank you for listening. Thank you for listening. I appreciate you being here. And if you enjoy this, please share us. And I'd love you to leave a review. And if you do, I'll give you access to any class of your choice. There's. It's some classes on design pinking. This class is on astrology. So, let me know, just take a snapshot of your review and send it to me. And I'll send you the class. Until next time. Love, always.​​And the music taking you out is. Uh, GTE a J E T that you can find on Spotify. Isn't it stunning.